Helping individuals and couples be in better relationship with self and one another.
This is personal…
When I first told my mother that I was getting a divorce, she replied in a sarcastic tone,
“Well I guess I’m the only one who believes in happy endings”.
I put my hand gently on her shoulder and said,
“Mom I want you to consider that this is a happy ending”.
Sabrina Hadeed, PhD
Licensed Psilocybin Facilitator
The dialogue above really happened exactly as it's written. I chose to highlight it not to give my mom a hard time (I love and appreciate her immensely) but instead to highlight a tendency that many of us have to make assumptions about other people's stories. We often base these assumptions on existing paradigms (aka the most common narrative). Examples include "divorce equals an unhappy ending" or "the longer a marriage the happier the love story." Although these are sometimes true, they are not ALWAYS true.
My story doesn't fit the paradigm. I truly believe me and my ex had a happy ending when we lovingly dissolved our marriage. We also had a happy beginning into a new kind of partnership. And yes, we had two young children. And yes, there was heartache and pain and all the things that come with the decision to end.
But we kept coming back to the question of "what do we want our ending to be like? For us and for our children..."
I believe that most people, no matter how resentful or hurt they are... if they really connect with a deep sense of what they want their ending (or their next chapter) to look like... would answer that question in a similar spirit. The answer would be something akin to "honest, brave, and kind." I also will say proudly that my personal work with guided psychedelic experiences helped me get there... to the softer, deeper parts of my why and how.
Additionally, I have 20+ years on the front lines as a psychotherapist working with individuals, family systems, and couples. Throughout my time sitting across from every imaginable relational dynamic, and every imaginable inner one, listening with curiosity and care... I found a common theme. There is a deficit of support for people who are conflicted: couples wondering whether to stay together or how to navigate an ending if they so choose, and individuals doing that same reckoning alone, inside themselves, about a relationship, an identity, or a version of life they're outgrowing. There are too many stories of people "trying everything" and still feeling stuck, whether they're working it out across a table from a partner or working it out with only themselves for company.
I am determined to support people, coupled or single, who want a better outcome and who are ready to challenge the old narratives that no longer fit their story. This includes couples working toward realignment or a conscious uncoupling, and it includes individuals doing the quieter, equally courageous work of repair: rebuilding a sense of self, a sense of agency, a sense of meaning, after loss, rupture, or a chapter that didn't go the way they expected.
Because I know that happier endings, and happier next beginnings, are possible... whether that means uncoupling, realigning, or simply coming back home to yourself.
And I believe that happier endings make for a happier life, no matter how many people are standing inside that ending with you.
The Ripple Effect!
Impact Goes Beyond your Relationship
The current model for supporting couples often isn’t enough or doesn’t work. Psychedelics have the potential to revolutionize the way we move through conflict, reconnect with our internal wisdom, and reclaim a new path on our terms.
By improving the way we navigate conflict and emotional pain:
we improve the way we feel about ourselves and the world.
we improve the way others experience us.
we role model healthy repair and mindful navigation through life's storms.
Think about your friends, family, and/or children. This work has a ripple effect. It is systemic. Loneliness, isolation, and unhealed pain lead to physical and emotional illness. It is why the expression “hurt people, hurt people”rings true. But guess what? Healed people, heal people. The healing begins with yourself, followed by the RELATIONSHIPS you have with others.
I imagine a world where couples get to have the healthiest most amicable ending possible or find their way back to one another - and intergenerational wellness becomes a reality. This has the capacity to then impact communities and cultural wellness (the ripple effect). This is a prevention model of wellness. Treat the underlying problems, support couples to move through conflict and pain even and especially with endings and help support future generations as they navigate love and loss.
Increased wellness equals decreased sickness equals less strain (financial or otherwise) on community systems.
Expertise and Scope of Practice
The Oregon framework mandates only a 120-hour training program, a 40-hour practicum, and a high school diploma in order to become a Licensed Psilocybin Facilitator.
In addition to meeting the minimum training standards set forth by the Oregon Health Authority, Dr. Sabrina Hadeed has a Master’s degree in Existential Phenomenological Psychology and a PhD in Counseling with a major in Counselor Education & Supervision. She has been working with couples and individuals in the mental health field for over 20 years.
While as a licensed facilitator Dr. Hadeed does not provide “therapy” services during psilocybin sessions, her background and experience in mental health are fundamental to a harm reduction approach, as well as, the added expertise needed to navigate the complexities of the mind and emotions that can arise before, during, and following a psilocybin journey both individually and in relationships.
Dr. Hadeed brings her powerful intuition, spirited passion, and curiosity mindset to meet couples on the edge of their comfort zones. She cultivates a safe “container” with a disarming warmth and challenges participants to move through pain and shadow - into pleasure and light. “Every storm begins with stillness stirring and ends with breakthrough light” (a line borrowed from one of her poems).
Speaker
Speaker
Dr. Hadeed has spoken live hundreds of times at conferences, universities, and organizations, to small groups, as well as, in front of audiences numbering in the hundreds.
She has been interviewed on TV (this is a stretch but it is technically true), as an expert source for articles (this one is totally true), and on podcasts (and so is this one). Additionally she has served as a guest lecturer and professor for several universities over the span of her career.
Dr. Hadeed is a heart-centered passionate speaker, who values humor and inspiring audiences with her warmth, energy, and wisdom.
Speaking topics include but are not limited to:
Spiritual Bullshit Detection: Protecting Sovereignty in the Age of Commodified Healing
Like A Girl: Empowering Women to Reclaim their Voice
Feminist Leadership Approaches: challenging the status quo of top down hierarchical culture
Coping with Collective Grief
Psychedelic Harm Reduction
Healing toxic culture one relationship at a time
Not broken, just Restructured: How to re-write the divorce narrative
People Pleasers in Recovery
Resilience in times of polarity
Psychedelics and creative thinking, getting unstuck, conflict resolution, intergenerational healing, marriage and mircodosing, and more!